There are several independent surveys and studies regarding the prevalence of sexual abuse and incest survivors who do not remember their abuse for varied periods of time. In a clinical sample of incest survivors conducted by J. Herman and E. Schatzow in the late 1980s, 28 percent reported severe memory deficits. Sixty-four percent reported some degree of amnesia.

In a 1994 national sample of psychologists, conducted by S. Feldman-Summers and K. Pope, 23.9 percent reported childhood abuse. Of the psychologists who recounted abuse, 40 percent reported some period of time when victims forgot some or all of the abuse. In a prospective study of women’s memories of child sexual abuse conducted by L. Williams in 1994, 38 percent of the women studied did not recall sexual abuse that had been reported and documented in a hospital emergency room 17 years earlier. Women who were younger at the time of the abuse were more likely to have no recall of the abuse.

In a survey conducted by E. Loftus, S. Polonsky and M. Fullilove in 1994, 54 percent of the 105 women in an out-patient treatment for substance abuse reported themselves as victims of past sexual abuse; nineteen percent reported they forgot the abuse over time, but the memory returned later.

In 1993, J. Briere and J. Conte conducted a self-report survey for abuse in adults molested as children. This self-report survey revealed 59 percent of 450 women and men in treatment for sexual abuse at some time before age 18 had forgotten the sexual abuse.

Frequently, in working with sexual abuse survivors, I am not surprised they want to believe they made up the ’story’ of sexual abuse rather than face the horrific memories so they can fully heal. “Maybe I am making this up. Maybe I just dreamed that I was sexually abused.” Therein lies the truth…the unconscious mind doesn’t create dreams out of the random set of possibilities…the unconscious mind presents to us that which needs to be resolved–albeit might come in symbolic form until the conscious mind is prepared to accept the truth of the matter.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, author, If I’d Only Known…Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention, is noted for her pioneering work in verbal, physical, sexual abuse prevention and recovery. http://www.gen-assist.com/book.asp

You can also ask your significant other how much they are comfortable with you talking about. Make sure that they know how and why you want to talk to someone and, if possible, who. Then stress that this does not signal a problem with the relationship, but just that you need to be able to talk to a neutral third party about issues that you have, that are becoming present in your life. If they are okay with you talking to a friend, then you can do that. If they would rather you talk to a therapist, ask if they are okay with you speaking to their therapist. This would allow the therapist to help treat the boyfriend or girlfriend, by directing the therapy towards fixing problems that are causing issues in the relationship. By explaining it that way, it might be more palatable. However, be careful about paranoia, because if it is present, it might be a very strong negative motivation.

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Today, I was all by myself. Well, I guess that I was not really all alone. I had the baby with me, my wife was away on business in LA for the week. This week that I needed to do all of the stuff that I takes to take care of the baby. I had to wake up early in the morning so that I could be awake and ready for the baby. The first thing that she does when she wakes up usually, is cry. She will cry and then stretch all out and wake up. Then she will call me into the room to get her up. As soon as I open her door, she stops all that crying. The next thing that I get to do is get her bottle of milk ready to go. Then I feed her, and after that take a shower. Then after the shower I get ready, and play with her for about an hour or so, because pretty soon, it is time for me to feed there again. After eating she will play for about a half and hour, and then take a nap. Usually I need to get her all tired so that she will fall asleep. Now I will have a few hours to do whatever it is that I need to do for the day. After my two hours are up, it is back to the real work of looking after the baby. Eat, play, sleep. That seems to be what she does all day long. Day after day, after day, it is all the same. Sticking to the schedule is just a part of the plan. If I stick to the babies plan and schedule, everything will be just right.

Paid surveys advertised by pop up Internet advertisements or spam emails are usually less trustworthy. Consumers need to realize that they participate in these surveys at their own risk. These types of surveys are very common and alluring because they often promise to give a free product like an Apple I-pod or a Sony Playstation 2 to people who complete the survey. Oftentimes, however, what they really do is get the person’s contact information and sell it to marketing companies.

Keep in mind that not all free paid surveys are dishonest. Most firms that offer rewards to people who actually come into a building to participate in marketing research do follow through on their promises. Well-known marketing companies that have been in business for a long time are also usually honest about their incentives. These legitimate offers are not as extravagant as those offered over the Internet, but it is better to receive a small reward than it is to be promised a big reward and get nothing.

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Cleansing and balancing the chakra system is important to the overall health of the individual. There are several different techniques that can be used to cleanse and balance each of the charkas. The important thing is finding the one that is most comfortable. The exercise below is simple. It can be done in a few minutes. Practiced each day, it will leave the individual feeling more energetic and focused.

The technique that follows can be modified by the individual to suit his/her own needs. Start off by sitting in a chair or standing somewhere comfortable with your feet flat on the ground/floor. It is particularly important to sit or stand if you are new to meditation practices. Laying down cues the body that it is time for sleep.

Once you are positioned, take a few deep but slow cleansing breaths. The idea isn’t to gasp for air, nor is it to breathe unnaturally, but to get the blood deeply oxygenated. Breath is a natural healing mechanism, and many of us in the west will find that we breathe in a very shallow manner which starves our bodies and brain of oxygen. Breathe in at a slow steady pace and feel the oxygen enter your body, continue the slow steady inhale until the breath has expanded the chest and abdomen just as a balloon fills with air.

Hold the breath for as long as it is comfortable, and then release and do the exhale at the same slow relaxed pace, blowing through the lips as though you were blowing out a candle. Be sure to fully empty the lungs before beginning the next inhalation.

After three of these breaths release tension and relax more deeply. Take a few comfortable normal paced breaths as you do this. Once you are comfortable and ready to continue, close the eyes and envision a golden white ball of light above the head. This is the holy light, representing the connection between yourself and the Divine.

This ball of light sits a few feet above the top of the head and begins to expand and stream down. As you allow the light to flow (don’t force or pull it etc) relax even deeper knowing you are safe and at peace. Be fully present with this light, and as the light descends down upon the crown of your head take another deep breath as we did earlier.

As you breathe in say in your mind “I allow the light to heal, cleanse and balance”". On the exhale say “I release all that is not for my highest good”". Relax and allow the light to move down to the third eye (between the eyebrows) when it is ready, then repeat the breath and mantra on both the inhale and the exhale.

Continue this process slowly and let it flow naturally all the way down your chakra system until it reaches the soles of the feet. When it has reached the soles of the feet, envision a ball of energy from in the Earth rising up slowly into the soles of your feet. Allow this energy to carry away any residual energies that need to be cleansed and take them back into the Earth for reprocessing/healing.

As you continue to relax say a prayer of gratitude. Take a few moments to sincerely reflect on all of your life’s blessings and to show appreciation to Spirit for all the abundance that is housed within you. The important thing to remember is that you are a channel allowing these powerful energies to flow through you. You don’t have to have any special talent or abilities to benefit from this healing as “you” are not doing it, but allowing Spirit/God to do this through you. It is an exercise of “allowing”

Another variation others enjoy, is to do this meditation while in the shower. As you feel the water washing over you, you can envision your energy field also being cleansed and balanced. The water as it goes down the drain, carries away all negativity and extra energy.

For grounding and healing also participate in activities that put you in direct contact with the Earth, walk barefoot in the grass, sit with your back against a tree, plant a garden, (this is healing to your Earth mother as well) anything that puts you in contact with nature is deeply rejuvenating and healing.

Christin Snyder is a personal empowerment advocate and holistic health practitioner who promotes whole being wellness. Visit her for personal development resources at http://www.mysticaltreasures.net

Let me start by saying that until the little creatures begin showing themselves as real and 3D touchable as any other critter on earth and do it on a massive worldwide scale so that they’re able to be counted and kept track of like anyone else on the endangered species list, then you won’t ever really know for sure will you? So why don’t they? Well that’s one of those million dollar questions. As far as I can tell it’s a combination of them not actually existing in a physical sense beyond the spiritual realm and that they get a certain amount of pleasure in teasing and playfully messing with our minds.

I don’t know what the official stance is according to the Grand PooBah of Psychiatry, but I know that most people who are certifiably insane don’t know that they are. The saying goes that if you are capable of questioning your own sanity, then you must not be too far gone yet. Not very reassuring, I know. Are they real or not? That’s the question you’re asking. I could give you one of those psychobabble answers like, “They are as real as you believe them to be.” Again, that doesn’t really help much.

Here’s the first question to ask yourself. Do they control you? The reason I ask is because throughout history there have been stories in all religions and cultures of some type of spirits that come to lovingly guide us along our way. So are the spirits controlling you and your life or are they guiding and nudging you? If they’re pushy and controlling you then there’s a higher probability that it’s a psychological game you’re playing with yourself. “The devil made me do it.” That usually means that you don’t want to face your secret motivations and so you have created an entity to force you to do things.

If they don’t control you and are simply loving guides trying to help out, then do you control them? If you are able to tell them what to do and they are working around the clock at your beck and call, then chances are you’re making them up. Free will is at the core of love. Nobody is forced to do anything. If you’re able to control when they come and go and what they do or do not do to help you, then you aren’t working with separate entities. Angels, fairies, and spirit guides are not our cosmic slaves to be controlled and dictated to. If you can do that, then they aren’t real.

Are you dependant on them? What I mean by this is that if they are an emotional security blanket then you’ve probably made them up in your mind. Real guardian angels and such are here to help you to believe in yourself, not to make you completely dependant on them for your every thing. If you can’t make a personal decision without your guides and they allow that kind of neediness, then they aren’t real. If you require they’re presence in order to create your art, play your music, or to write your great masterpiece, then chances are you don’t have enough self-esteem and you created a third party in your mind to give the credit to. That’s not the same as occasionally co-creating with them but being able to also work independently. If you are unable to do your spiritual works or offer your gifts to the world without their assistance, then they are probably not real.

Finally, upon meeting with the spirits and building a strong mentally healthy relationship with them where neither is a control freak bossing the other around and both are free to come and go as they please. Then the last thing to consider is the impact that the relationship has on you. Are you called to do some sort of spiritual work? Are you shown how to give some kind of a gift of love to the world whether it’s music, writing, speaking, art, cleaning up the planet or whatever else? Most people who come into contact with the divine find themselves with some sort of an undying need to spread love and joy around the planet. Real angels, fairies, and spirit guides teach us how to give our greatest gifts to the world. They empower us with the self belief that we have always had whatever is needed to make a difference in the world. If the relationship isn’t spiritual and inspirational, then it’s doubtful that it’s really spirit guides or angels that you’re talking to.

It is universally understood that the angels, fairies, spirit guides, or whatever other name your culture gives to those messengers of love and light, it is understood that they come from God. Again, it doesn’t matter if you call it God, Mother Nature, the Light, the Force or whatever name you like. These little spirits are divine helpers from the heavens come to cheer you on and to help you find a spiritually divine path. They are not owned by us and cannot be bossed around. They have no control over us and cannot boss us around without our consent. They can work amazing magic when co-creating with us, but they are here to show you your own magic and the divinity within you. Once that’s done, they tend to slip back into the shadows to allow you to shine your own light on your little corner of the world.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge

About The Author

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow’s Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, soulmates, and parenting. Her books and articles have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. After years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. To read more of her articles, sign up to receive her free weekly newsletter, and get free previews of her books go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net.

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For the sake of clarity, a betting saloon is a structure that focuses on card playing. At such a place, clients are encouraged to take a chance by challenging coin operated machines or a slew of other gambling games. Gaming hall games more often than not include mathematically calculated likelihoods incorporated which ensure the gaming hall holds on to dominion versus the betting devotees. A lot of casino games encourage you to get obsessed rapidly. Let’s look at the archetypal one-armed-bandit, a coin operated contraption with three plus cylinders which whirl when a handle on its side is pushed. This instrument frequently returns corresponding with a sequence of logos perceptible on the screen of the instrument. Regrettably, gambling house games put forward the semblance of being in full control, thus tricking the bettor — the victim is provided with options, but in actual fact they will not truly compensate for the patron’s longterm negative odds. That is precipitated by the gaming hall never paying the full stake as hoped for. This methodology will generally be seen at work in well known casino games such as stud poker, craps, roulette or blackjack.

Poker is indisputably an incredibly trendy casino game. The bettors, meticulously guarding their either fully or partially concealed cards, wager in a principal pot that is granted to the prevailing punter holding the highest combination of cards. (Of course, the best bluffing hand may well prevail ..) Comparable to Texas hold’em, blackjack too is an immensely fashionable casino pastime. Plenty of its fame is by virtue of the mix of luck and ingenuity and decision making, as well as a system termed “card counting”. It is a gambling tactics in which gamblers may actually change the probabilities of the game for their own good both by betting and procedural decisions correlating with the hands dealt. “Craps” is yet another highly popular casino game where you place bets on the throw of a couple of dice. Customers can wager on the score of 1 cycle, or on a series of spins of two dice. Dissimilar to blackjack, there can’t be a viable bona fide winner tactics people could apply to boost the odds. Roulette is a celebrated casino game — a croupier turns a roulette wheel that accommodates precisely 37 (as in classical roulette) or 38 (American or Vegas roulette) uniquely tagged receptacles in which the ball will then settle, thus defining the winning number Supposing that the participant bets on any given number and is successful i.e. it is having a lucky day, the set accolade is 35:1, the pledge being repaid. Indeed in total it is increased by a factor of thirty six.

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This issue of suffering is the most common argument against religion. People often ask, “If there is a loving God, why does He make people suffer?”

I firmly believe that God does not cause sickness or pain. He doesn’t make people hurt, and He doesn’t want them to suffer. The life of Jesus proved this. He cured people; He did not make them sick. Why, then, are so many in pain?

There is no easy answer. To try and understand, I step back and look at the big picture. God made everything perfect. Then man sinned and that perfection was spoiled. Now we live in a world where evil abounds. We are subject to the evil actions of sinful people and to the natural consequences of those actions. This is not at all what God intended for the world He created.

God can and does intervene in some events, but why not others? Only He knows that answer, but the Bible teaches that there will be a time when He will put an end to ALL death, sadness, pain, sickness, and suffering.

Below are some possible reasons that people suffer.

1) We do things ourselves that cause us pain. We don’t eat right, so we have heart attacks. We drive fast, so we have accidents. We smoke, so we get cancer. We start wars, we break laws, we don’t show love to our fellow man. Much of the sorrow in this world, we bring upon ourselves by our own actions.

2) But what about innocent children who are not responsible for their suffering? Why do they get sick? This is a tough question. What I know for sure is that when God created this world, He intended for us to have strong, healthy bodies and freedom from pain and suffering. When evil entered the picture, it brought with it suffering. That is not to say people suffer because of their own personal sins, necessarily, but the world is changed, due to sin being part of the world. Jesus said, “In this world, you will have tribulation.”

Just as in the case with Job, I believe that evil forces attack us and cause much suffering in an attempt to get people to blame God and turn away from Him. (Job 2:3-9)

3) God gives us rights as individuals. Because He allows us to choose for ourselves how we’ll live, He had to also allow us the freedom to sin. This means He had to allow the consequences of our behaviors, too. Some of those consequences are diseases caused by toxins, accidents caused by risky behaviors, and natural disasters caused by things like changes in the ozone layer, which we have brought about.

4) Though some people think God punishes us by making us suffer, Jesus said that a blind man He healed was born blind, not because of his sin or his parents’ sin, but “that the works of God should be revealed in him.” (John 9:3) God didn’t cause the blindness, but He used it to show His power to all who saw Jesus heal the man.

5) Another possible reason God allows suffering is so that our faith in Him will grow, our compassion for others will increase, and we’ll be better able to encourage other hurting people (2 Corinthians 1:3-5).

6) Romans 1:22 says that God gives rebellious people over to their own foolishness. He lets us go, hoping that we will return to Him after we hit bottom and see the error of our ways. Giving His permission is not the same as causing the problem. God doesn’t cause people to stubbornly refuse to follow His way. He doesn’t want us to go ever deeper into degradation, but He does permit us to have our way when we are determined to choose our own path.

BUT WE ARE NOT WITHOUT HOPE:

Though this world is no longer perfect, God will create a perfect world some day in heaven. He will get rid of everything that is not HIS. Suffering, sin, pain, tears and death are not HIS. “When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: ‘Death has been swallowed up in victory.’” (1 Corinthians 15:54)

We have HOPE that all suffering will be relieved when we go to spend eternity with God. But this promise of eternal bliss is only for those who know, serve, and love Him.

God doesn’t cause suffering; Satan does. When we get angry at God, it’s exactly what Satan wants. By blaming God for evil, we’re actually following the one who IS responsible.

“Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” (1 Peter 5:8-11)

Our souls are of greater importance to God than our bodies are. Though He cares about our physical suffering, healing our soul is more urgent because it is the soul that lives forever. Our relationship with God is what determines where that soul spends eternity. If only those who suffer here on earth would seek God and the true healing (of the soul) that He offers!

In this world, bad things happen to good people. Those who have a personal relationship with God are better able to cope. We can live without fear, even though we do not know what the future holds, if we know the one who holds the future in His hands. When we discover the great love God has for us, we can let go of fear.

Psalm 27:1 says “The Lord is my salvation. Whom shall I fear?” Jesus triumphed over death, and He alone can save us from eternal death. He can also see us through all the trials of life and bring us safely to heaven.

I don’t have all the answers. I just hope that, in sharing what I’ve learned through my own experience, I’ve helped you to feel more at peace knowing God has ultimate control in every circumstance. He is GOOD, no matter what evil befalls us. We can trust in the one who is full of compassion and loves us more than we can imagine. Without that knowledge, I don’t know how anyone could cope with the trials of life.

No one can comfort the depths of our sorrows except God. I’m convinced that if you read His promises in the Bible, your heart will be encouraged.

Author Marsha Jordan is founder of a nonprofit charity called Hugs and Hope for Sick Children (http://www.hugsandhope.org). More of her articles on depression are in her book, Hugs, Hope, and Peanut Butter, a compilation of thought-provoking essays illustrated with drawings by critically ill children.

In this book, the author combines hope with humor, drawing upon her own experience of living with chronic pain and depression for thirty years. She opens her life and her heart to share everyday experiences and the lessons God has taught her from them.

A wonderful mix of the serious and the humorous, this book warms the heart and lifts the spirit. PROCEEDS BENEFIT SICK KIDS! This book was written to encourage anyone who faces disappointment — which is EVERYone! Some essays in the book include “What Did I Do To Deserve This?” “What Was God Thinking?” “More Than I Can Handle,” and “Ten Tips For Beating Depression” Order the book or learn more at http://www.hugsandhope.org/book.htm